Love Don't Cost a Thing

While some husbands may shower their loved ones with diamonds and pearls, mine did it with a card. And you know what? It's more that enough for me....

Has it been that long?

Today is my 14th Wedding Anniversary but truth be told, it feels like only yesterday that hubby and I tied the knot.

As a “treat” for our Anniversary, he drove me to work so I may “snooze” in the car. We then had breakfast at his favourite nasi kandar joint. After which, he took the lrt/komuter home.

A friend who saw us together said we looked good as a couple and that he was “cute”. I guess it has been such a long time since I saw him that way. What I do know is, I fell in love with him because he was generous (to a fault), he respected the elders (Wah loves him to death) and that he loved me unconditionally.

While things may not be so smooth financially right now, I would always remember what Abah said to me once when I was ranting about hubby. “Imagine he’s gone from your life, how would you feel right now?” That stopped me cold. Yes, I know I can survive alone but he is such a big part of my life that I would not want to imagine him being gone.

So to my hubby, Happy 14th Wedding Anniversary and let’s celebrate it in Bandung!

Bandung, here I come...

Finally, after pondering on whether I should go to Bandung or not, I booked a reasonably priced hotel for my upcoming trip next Sunday. Nothing fancy but no eww factor. Having been with the airline, I have been accustomed to a certain standard when it comes to hotels. If I feel I have to be fully dressed (with shoes) before I could lay down on a bed (on top of the covers), that's definitely a no-go.

Why am I going? Apart from running away from the office (am taking 4 days off, WOOHOO!), I'll be looking at plus size clothes that I'm going to sell via the internet. So I won't be shopping for myself, I want to see if this could be yet another avenue I could make money from. Wish me luck!

Blind spot

Have you always turned a blind eye when it comes to your family? My hubby does. He has this irritating brother and everyone (with the right mind) can see that. But when I complained about his distasteful remarks in a family function, my hubby brushed it off and said - "He's my brother".

I think my hubby is oblivious when it comes to his family. They can treat him like shit and he will just take it. An example - I wanted to spend this year's Raya in Kuantan since my brother is not coming back - his daughter is facing SPM this year and the exam date is close to Raya. So I shared what I thought was good news. Never having a "kampung" to go back to, I've always looked forward going to Kuantan. The last time we did, hubby didn't follow since he couldn't take leave. So imagine my frustration when he said, "but Mak wants us to celebrate Raya with her this year at her new house".

After a day of retaliation, hubby agreed to follow me to Kuantan and said Mak is ok with it. One of his nieces said - "We don't really care where you spend Raya, as long as you don't take away our Nenek."

He doesn't realise that he is no longer an important member of his family. He lost that 'privilege' the day he married me and can no longer lavish his family with cash and gifts. He doesn't see that and I feel sorry for him. But most of the time, I just feel like hitting him on the head...

Out in the open...

Last weekend, after taking my mum for a spot of shopping, I told her the truth. She took it well and I explained I only kept her and abah in the dark to spare them the worry. Didn't want it to affect their health and all.

My mother, unlike you know who, said she felt sorry for my hubby and I and wished I had told her earlier so she may pray for our fast recovery.

All I can say is, after keeping the secret for so long, it felt so good to have it out in the open. No more walking on thin ice. No more lies to cover the first lie I told. And another plus point - it may push hubby to be more active in his job hunting...